I am on a guilt trip here.
As you know, I have not been doing many night shifts of late. The reason is that I get really grumpy and irritatable whenever I don't have sufficient sleep. I will become this ugly person and complain to VT to no end. As a result, I am not patient with poor Brandon.
Reading other mummy's experiences with their babies, I feel even more guilty as there are so many types of challenges apart from sleeplessness. I am grateful that Brandon is Ok health-wise, but there are just those moments when I feel so tired that I could cry.
I think I am not a good mum especially in the initial first few trying months. Any tips from the many accomplished mothers out there on how I can be more patient with my boy?
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10 comments:
don't worry. i think we are ALL guilty of this if not ALL, most of us. Although we think we can be supermoms - in reality,...well reality bites.
I had a tough time at least in the 1st few months when Aidan was born. Having to deal with Ashley was a different story. She literally drove me up the wall! and anyone feels grumpy and irritable when we dont get enough of sleep...perhaps you need to have more me time. bring the kids to your parents/in laws and then just chill on your own. go for a mani/pedi/massage and chill....
No mom is perfect. When I had only a child, I wanted to be supermom and I put a lot of pressure on myself. For for second bb, I took things easily. So what if you can't be nice 24 hours to your kids? Just walk away for a while and clear your mind. That's what I did. Oh ya, sleepless nights is hard to bear, you are not alone.
Don't say that. I'm not a vy patient person too, esp when I'm edi soooo sleepy but the kiddo just refuse to lie still n sleep! As u can't get enuff sleep at nite, I suggest u nap whenever Brandon naps in the day time. Some catnaps here n there is still better than not having enuf rest n sleep.
in just a few more eye blinks..the boys will grow up soon....
hey don't be guilty lah...takes thing easy close one eye when it's not so important, then i'm sure it'll be better :). no need to be perfectionist one OK. maybe u can take time off and spend 2-3 hours just with bryan, i'm sure he'll feel better as well.
cat nap whenever possible, sleep when brandon sleeps too, then u should be alright :)
i too snap on faythe many many times when she drives me up the wall with her antics
Dont worry, I'm sure all of us here's been where you are. For me, I'm still at your position, but lucky thing for me is I have the help of my maid... I totally go bonkers too when I don;t have enough sleep, but I guess I kinda got used to it :P And hoh, random weekends at my mum's place with someone else taking care of the kids really help recharge.
When I had Ivan, the only child at that time, I really beh tahan how come this kid is always crying and I have no patience waiting for his burp to come... Ahh, I guess patience comes with practice?? Or resignation? :P
I'd echo what Mom2Ashley and Slavemom wrote above. I need my sleep too but still woke up for his feeds.
How did I manage while I was a full time Mum? Become real anti-social :)
Seriously, Hubby went to most wedding dinners etc by himself. I didn't mind really coz I was so bloody tired!
Am sure you're not a horrible Mom just a little over-whelmed. You'll be fine and be a great mom..
Mullai
You are not alone. I also snap on Bryan when i am overstressed. So i learn to let go and when i feel like exploding ..just ask my husb or family to watch after my kids while i cool down by myself in the room.
No tips really, but just remind yourself not to be too hard on yourself and don't strive too hard to be perfect.
Ask for help whenever you need. Being a mum does not mean you have to be a super person, you know.
And definitely try to catch a nap as much as you can. =D
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